How to Heal: From Soul Injury Pt. 5—‘staying positive’ is not going to work

Set realistic expectations. I’ve said it before and I will say it again: Dissatisfaction happens when reality does not meet expectations. If we are expecting to experience immediate positivity or joy after a painful experience, we are already setting ourselves up to be massively disappointed.

It may be more reasonable to get to a space of neutrality. Neutrality is good. Neutrality is feasible. It is a good stepping stone. It might still be a challenge, but it is more accessible than joy. AND this is not to say to block joy either, just manage your expectations.

Do what you can to get to neutral and from there, you can work toward sustained joy.

One of the best practices to cross into neutrality or into joy, is gratitude.

Everyone is different and of course, this all depends on the context of the situation. But, in general, if you start brain dumping everything you are grateful for, it will start lightening up the heaviness of the pain. Without that excess energetic weight, it is much easier to center on our core values and make decisions from a clearer place.

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